Quite recently, I wrote an article with the headline DON’T SCAPEGOAT THE KERCHERS. It was in response to the revulsion I felt at reading a piece on “Wrongful Conviction News” which demanded that the Kerchers immediately accept the complete innocence of the ex defendants.
Since writing this article I have seen seen some pretty disturbing comments in its wake. I have read enjoinders asking for the three families to unite in their grief for the “lost years”.
Well, to those people I would say that Meredith is lost forever, not just for years. I think what you are expecting from the Kerchers would even surpass the humanitarian capacity of a Saint.
Now you have this “truth” in your mind, and for you it is unshakeable. There is nothing amiss there. But the Kerchers do not share your truth. TRUTH is not an absolute concept; it is something we determine for ourselves.
You say that the Kerchers missed opportunities for reconciliation, but why would they wish for contact with someone they believe murdered their daughter?
If the ex defendants are innocent, and were wrongfully imprisoned, then of course it is a tragedy, but nothing, nothing approaching the tragedy of the loss of a daughter for ever, needlessly and in the most brutal of circumstances.
Throughout the long years of this case, Amanda has tried to reach out to the Kerchers, explaining how “Meredith was my friend.” Explaining how they could get together and share memories. Explaining how her suffering pales into insignificance compared with that of losing a daughter, and that you could possibly help them understand.
I understand that after Amanda was delivered from the jaws of death which is the Italian Justice system, solemn prayers were said for Meredith and her family.
Well, Amanda, I have some better recommendations for you. Forget about the shared memories and the prayers. If you really want to help the Kerchers to accept your innocence, here’s what you must do:-
Give some honest answers to some simple questions.
1)Were you or were you not with Raff the night of the murder? You say you were, he says you weren’t. Which of you is lying?
2)Which is the correct reason for turning off your cell phone? You have given at least 3 different reasons. Come clean.
3)Why were you not more diligent in your care for Meredith’s safety? You let her phones ring for such a short time. You never left her a message. Why was this?
4)You emailed friends and family about what was happening in YOUR life, and how “it kind of sucks” to have to pay rent. If Meredith was your friend, why is she dismissed in a couple of sentences?
5)In your email, you say that you panicked about Meredith, given that her door was locked. Did the 2 of you make any proper attempt to break down the door? And if Meredith usually locked her door, as you told the Postal Police, why did the locked door worry you? ( You can’t have it both ways, Amanda.)
There are many, many more questions, Amanda, but if you start with these, maybe you could make some progress with the Kerchers.
Please don’t resort to the collective amnesia which seems to have pervaded your memory, reasoning and recollection of the vital murder day and subsequent days. If you have memory loss problems, you need to get them sorted!
Spare the Kerchers this “Meredith was my friend” mantra, and the prayers for Meredith’s family. They are unimpressed, and so are a large number of people. You are free now, and cannot be called to account. Just help them.
Just answer the questions, Amanda!